“I’ve lived with a lot of different roommates before, ranging from 20 year old girls to 30 year old men”
lol nope
trying to find a roommate is really hard when responding to messages is such a huge anxiety trigger for me. I’m trying so hard to be as prompt as possible but usually I get a message and it takes me 1-2 days to respond… after having a mini-existential crisis about what to say and talking some ativan to try not to freak out while I’m writing.
I just ordered this as a wall decal from etsy to put above my bed. Really really really fucking excited.
My quest to turn my bed nook into the ocean is well on it’s way
my prof owns a duplex w/her husband; they each live in their own half. I could NEVER live with a partner unless I had PLENTY of my own space.ahhh these stories are making my heart melt! Like that is so romantic to me!
Looking for a non-racist, non-homophobic, non-transphobic roommate. Can you help me find one?
This is what happened last time I looked.
This link is for my boo’s short film about apartment-hunting and holy fuck is it ever relevant right nowww
Trans men: just as shitty as cis men but more accepted than you will ever be in women’s spaces!
womp womp
mattachinereview said: leonard cohen (is not exactly a role model in at least several ways but) lives in a different montreal apartment than his wife of many years—there are so many ways to do it!
awww precious bbs! Yes that is so cute and awesome
princesslifestylechoices said: living together is full on and not for everyone. i don’t like this narrative that the only way to commit to someone is to live with them.
AMEN TO THIS
srsly, i don’t think i want to live w/ my partner either. i’ve joked about having a house and claiming a room as my own to hide in/not be bothered if i ever did decide to move in w/ a partner. xDI don’t even joke though! Like we always say if we move in together we’re gonna need our own rooms.
Living with partners is really stressful! Especially if you’re someone who needs time alone to re-charge/make art/breakdown/do whatever. Just because you’re good partners doesn’t mean you need to be roommates or would be good roommates! Idk it’s such a silly idea.
I used to work for this old woman who had two husbands and one lived down the street and the other one had his own room and they were the cutest ever.
Literally counting the minutes until someone is like IDGI WHY DON’T U 2 JUST MOVE IN TOGETHER?
And I have to be like “hey look, there are lots of valid ways to be in a relationship. Including being two introverts who are madly in love and live down the street from each other and value having their own homes.”
Hi!
I am a 25 year old mixed-race queer art activist (writer/filmmaker/illustrator) looking for a roommate to share my sunny, spacious duplex with. The unit is upstairs, located in a safe and quiet neighborhood between Oakland High School and Highland Hospital, (near the 57, 18, NL, 62 and 58L bus lines). The apartment has two bedrooms (I’m in one of them), one bathroom, an eat-in kitchen and a small laundry room. It also has beautiful views of the sunset over the Bay. It’s located only 15 minutes from Mills College (by bus) and 5 minutes from Trader Joe’s and the lake.
I am looking for someone who is clean, quiet and a direct, but respectful communicator. I do not drink or smoke and I would prefer to live with someone who will not bring drugs or alcohol into the house. I spend a lot of time with my partner, a 22 year old white trans guy who is also an artist and activist (singer/songwriter/poet).
Please email me at niaking@zoho.com with a few words about why you think we’d be a good fit. Unfortunately, the landlord does not allow pets.
I look forward to hearing from you. -Nia
P.S. The move-in date is July 1st and the rent is $600/mo.
Also my amazing girlfriend is looking for a roommate!
Femme trans boy seeking roommate for my beautiful Oakland home! (please share :)
I was going to wait until this weekend to take some pictures and make an official post, but I’ve gotten so much interest/so many questions already that I thought I’d post the information sans photos in the meantime.
About the house:
It’s a beautiful 2-story home in Oakland (Lake Merritt area, near Highland Hospital). We live in the upstairs flat, a friendly quiet couple live in the downstairs flat. Our flat has
- 2 large bedrooms +1 bathroom + 1 medium office (I leave a couple things in the office but it would be mostly yours to use as you please)
- A large living room nestled next to a HUGE kitchen, complete with a bar, a gas stove, and gorgeous green granite counter tops.
- Hardwood floors throughout the house and lots of interesting details/nooks/slanted ceilings/vintage tiles, etc.
- A big porch with outdoor lights and furniture
- A seriously enormous backyard with multiple fruit trees (lemons, loquats, and cherries!), lots of room for gardening, and a multi-level deck.
- Big basement with lots of storage space and our own washer/dryer (separate from the downstairs neighbors)
- Great commuter location. Just a few blocks from the 580 freeway, 5 minutes to the 880 freeway. Near the 62, 11, & 14 buses. 15-20 min bus/bike ride to Lake Merritt BART.
The rent is $625/mo + utilities. We pay water, PG&E, & internet. Water only comes once every couple months so depending on the weather/if we get the water bill/etc. the utilities range from $30-$90/month.
No smoking, no pets (though if we’re a great fit and you have a cat, we may be able to negotiate with the landlord. Previous tenants have had cats but the landlord prefers no pets.)
About you:
You are:
- ideally another queer and/or trans person
- financially stable and prompt with rent/utilities
- happy to share in the household chores, committed to having a clean and tidy common space
- responsible, honest, and communicative
- relatively quiet
- experienced living with roommates (a reference from a previous roommate would be a big plus!)
- invested in social justice and respectful of people’s boundaries
- a non-smoker (cigarettes&weed). I have severe asthma and can’t be around smoke/smokey clothes. (no incense, sage-burning, etc.)
- ideally a non-drinker, but I’m flexible as long as you are not drunk/drinking in the house
- comfortable using fragrance-free products in the house as much as possible (no perfumes, colognes, febreze, fragrant detergent and other strongly scented products). If you have question about this, just ask!
About me:
I’m a 22 year old white, queer, femme, transsexual man. I work full time as a nanny in Alameda and Berkeley. I’m also a musician, a poet, and an avid crafter. In my free time I like swimming in lakes with my friends, making zines, watching tons of netflix, petting every cat I can find, having sober queer game nights, and spending quality time with my partner of nearly 4 years.
I’m always trying to be conscious of my privileges and to avoid engaging in behavior that is hurtful or oppressive towards the people around me. I really value living with people who are similarly invested in social justice and open to discussing power dynamics as they manifest in the world and in our home.
As a roommate I am clean & tidy. I take pride in having a warm and inviting home. I am responsible and timely with rent & utilities. I am generally quiet, and always do my best to respect my roommates boundaries and needs. I’m a friendly, kind, and generous person, but I’m also very introverted. It’s important to me to live with someone who understands that I will not always be available to socialize and who will not take it personally when I hide out in my room.
If you’re interested, you can contact me here (via boyqueen.tumblr.com/ask) or via email (merqueenactualities@gmail.com).
Thanks!
Myles is one of the most comforting and safe space making people I’ve ever met and reblogging because I have several queer friends moving/trying to move to Oakland who need not-shitty roommates and Myles is great!
^ seconded.
Ahhh bbs you’re gonna make me cry!! <3 <3 <3 <3 bursting with love rn
Signal boosting for Boyqueen because he’s fantastic. =]
I WISH
I’m seriously just bursting with so much love for all of you right now and really overwhelmed by all the sweet things people have said to me since posting this. I’m sure that this big ball of mutual love is going to turn itself into a dream roommate soon enough <3 <3 <3
around this time last year people finally started taking notice of the food-related issues in the upper northern reaches of Canada; consider this your reminder that even since then, juice is still $26 in Pangnirtung, Nunavut, and that the predominately indigenous communities in Canada’s North are forced to pay extraordinarily exorbitant prices for basic groceries due to structural inequity and the contemporary effects of ongoing settler occupation.
